So I know we’ve all heard that it’s bad luck to ever take off your wedding ring and all that jazz, but superstitions aside, what do you think about married people who either don’t wear a ring ever, or take it off occasionally?
For example: I am a married woman, and my ring is a three stone engagement ring soddered inside an enhancer/jacket. The result is that the ring fits more snugly than if it was kept as two separate pieces. My hands, like mose people’s, swell slightly in the summer, and/or if I am bloated for whatever reason. As a result, I have been taking my ring off for short periods of time, because the feeling woyld range from discomfort to nearly cutting off my circulation. I try to put it back on if I am leaving the house, but sometimes my hands are so swollen I can’t get it over my knuckle. I also sometimes take it off if I am cleaning, putting on lotion, or doing something else that might gunk up the ring, because I have a slight case of OCD.
Example two: my husband is a mechanic and takes his ring off at work sometimes. He was married previously and his ex-wife never let him take his ring off. He was working in construction and dropped something heavy on his hand. His ring was crushed into his hand (it was a flimsy white gold band — from Walmart) and it was extremely painful for hkm to get it off, but he had to so it didn’t cut off his circulation and so he could get his finger treated. As a result of this, we were very particular when picking out his wedding band, and got a wider band made out of tungsten, but some jobs, he will still remove his ring so it doesn’t get damaged or hurt him.
Neither of us have a problem with the other removing their ring. We feel that the circumstances are understandable, and that the ring might be a symbol of our marriage, but the marriage itself is the love and commitment between us. Does anyone else feel this way? I mean, it’s not as though we only remove our rings when we go out to bars or clubs, or because we are ashamed of being married. My parents both take their rings off at night or when working with their hands and have been happily married for thirty years this Oct., so I definitely don’t believe any superstitions! What do you think when you hear of people removing their rings?
BQ: When ‘checking out’ a member of the opposite sex, do you take the time to look for a ring on his/her finger?
Oops, I meant to mention this above:
I’m not, like, stressing about this or anything, I was just mildly curious about what the general opinion is ;-D
Oi, so many edits, lol!
In reference to the third post: I know I don’t check out someone’s finger to see if they’re married. If an attractive man passes by, I might notice that he is attractive, but that’s about it. My husband is free to look at whatever woman he pleases (LOOK, not touch, haha), but he is that guy who is more likely to check out a pretty girl’s cool car than the pretty girl herself. This marriage was a long time coming (eight years of ‘carrying the torch’, so to speak), so there’s no way we’re letting anyone come between us.
I guess I just asked to see if a ring is something people notice. I am more likely to notice a woman wearing a ring than a man, because, well, I am a woman and interested in unique jewelry!