My (ex)husband and I kind of eloped. We planned a wedding in Maui, just the 2 of us. It was non-traditional and fast but I wanted to surprise him with a wedding band (he gave me his deceased Mom’s modest ring which at the time I thought was sweet…later I think he was just being cheap, he was well off and not sentimental at all). I bought him a $1500 platinum band (I had to finance it). After a few days I didn’t like the way the surface was scratching so we took it back to choose a new one. The salesman noticed him looking at watches and managed to talk him into (not that it took much convincing) a wedding watch instead. I was a little stunned but I didn’t want to seem old fashioned or bitchy. He paid the extra 3k and upgraded his wedding band to a nice Rolex. I never questioned it.

Years later I realized what a selfish person (not to mention cheater) he was through our whole marriage. When we divorced I returned his mother’s rings but of course I never got any part of his ring back.

What do you think of a wedding watch instead of a band in general? Do you think him trading in his band should have sent off warning signals in my head?
Sara: he traded it in the same week we were married. We were married for 5 yrs after that. I’m not traditional and I don’t care much about rings, but now I think it was selfish that he took my ‘gift’ and upgraded it to a status symbol for himself. I was wondering if anyone else knows someone with a wedding watch and how they feel about it.